If youâve ever felt underpaid, overlooked, or stuck in your career, itâs not just about your skills or the marketâitâs about your mindset.
Hereâs the uncomfortable truth:
You donât get paid what youâre worth; you get paid what you negotiate.
Let that sink in.
The most talented people donât always make the most money. Why?
Because theyâre waiting for someone else to recognize their value instead of owning it. Itâs time to stop waiting.
Hereâs how to reframe your thinking and take control of your earning potential.
1ď¸âŁ Believe Your Skills Deserve Top Dollar
Ever heard someone say, âI donât think Iâm qualifiedâ or âIâm not ready for that promotionâ? Itâs giving imposter syndrome.
The truth is, youâre probably underestimating the value you already bring to the table. Your skills, experience, and knowledge are assets. If you donât see them as such, why would anyone else?
Mindset shift: Confidence pays. Literally. People will pay more for someone who shows up with convictionâeven if theyâre still learningâthan for someone whoâs hesitant, even if theyâre technically perfect.
Case Study: Robert Downey Jr.
Before he became Iron Man, Robert Downey Jr. was seen as a risky bet in Hollywood. His career had stalled, and major studios were hesitant to work with him.
Instead of accepting lowball offers, Downey bet on himself. He insisted on being paid what he believed he was worth, even though it meant taking smaller roles to prove his value.
His turning point came with Iron Man. Marvel initially offered him a modest paycheck, but Downey negotiated a deal that included backend profits based on the film's success. That decision not only revived his career but also made him one of the highest-paid actors in Hollywood.
The lesson? Knowing your valueâand not settling for lessâcan transform your earning potential.
Practical tip: Start tracking your wins. Big or small, document every project, metric, or accomplishment. When you see it all laid out, it becomes harder to ignore your valueâand easier to advocate for it.
2ď¸âŁ Invest in Growth
Letâs talk about that course, certification, or training you keep putting off because youâre âtoo busy.â Hereâs the harsh reality: Staying busy with the status quo is costing you.
When youâre afraid to invest in yourselfâyour time, your money, your energyâyou stay stuck. The people climbing the ladder and negotiating six-figure salaries? Theyâre the ones who make growth a priority.
Mindset shift: You are your greatest investment. Every skill you build today adds to your earning potential tomorrow.
Practical tip: Stop overthinking and start acting. Pick one growth opportunity youâve been avoiding and commit. Whether itâs a short course on negotiation, a LinkedIn Learning class on leadership, or attending a networking event, make it happen this month.
3ď¸âŁ Stop Underselling Yourself
Hereâs where it gets real: If you keep settling for less, youâre training people to undervalue you.
When you accept a salary or rate below your worth, youâre not just losing moneyâyouâre signaling that this is what youâre willing to accept. Employers, clients, and colleagues take cues from how you present yourself. If you donât treat your time, skills, and expertise as premium, no one else will.
Mindset shift: Your work is not a bargain. Itâs a premium offering. Treat it as such.
Practical tip: Practice saying ânoâ to lowball offers. Whether itâs a salary negotiation, a freelance project, or a job opportunity, remind yourself: every ânoâ to undervaluing is a âyesâ to your future self.
Are You Leaving Money on the Table?
The only thing standing between you and a bigger paycheck isnât your boss, your industry, or the economy.
Itâs the belief that your value is dictated by someone else.
The moment you shift that beliefâfrom I hope they see my worth to Iâll make them see itâis the moment you start cashing bigger checks.
So, ask yourself:
Are you advocating for your skills or letting them go unnoticed?
Are you investing in your growth or letting âbusyâ be your excuse?
Are you presenting yourself as a premium professional or a clearance rack option?
Take Action Today
Hereâs your challenge:
Write down one skill you excel at that deserves top dollar.
Identify one growth opportunity youâll commit to this month.
Decide one way youâll stop underselling yourselfâwhether itâs asking for a raise, increasing your rates, or saying no to undervaluing opportunities.
đĄ Remember: Your paycheck is only as big as your belief in your value.
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This post comes at the perfect time! Just today, I negotiated for the very first time in my life. The person on the other side was surprised. Of course, Iâm a woman and, on top of that, a foreigner. But I felt a lot of pride in myself. Iâm not sure if it will pay off, but I certainly have great respect for the woman who stood her ground in that room to defend her principles!
I think your points link to our personal self-esteem as well as career. I think the lack of recording our progress and achievements is what makes this mindset change difficult, especially when entering into an unfamiliar space. By starting with our own reflections we can better understand ourselves and be more aware of how we present our experiences so far.